Looking Good – I noticed a couple of people today that even though they are not that attractive (as crass as that may sound) they have a way of making themselves look good. They highlight the positive features and that’s the first thing you notice. By the time you notice the rest, you have moved past the “appearance” stage of your relationship and it doesn’t make that much difference. What happens is that they made a good first impression, not by hiding anything, but by focusing on the good stuff. So is there a way that you can do this? Maybe simmer some potpourri or play some background music so guests notice that when they come over to your house (instead of seeing that everything isn’t spotless). At work, you might have some products or pictures displayed in your office and draw people’s attention there instead of the pile of unfinished work behind your desk. That first contact doesn’t have to be fake, but if you can control the focus of the attention, you’ll have a better time making a good impression.